how i got this... plus how it finally arrived in my hands chokes me up ..really really man  

eve of paris rio

I'm trying to finish reading da vinci code (the illustrated version ) before 5 am when i need to leave for the airport ....Smart cars .....Cobbled streets...ahhh Europe beckons once again..this time Paris will be conquered...oh yes ..it will.... by ASDH and meself unlike our last failed attempt circa 2002...I'd like to take this time to thank Fictionaire for just being a super duper guy .... kinda dissapointed i'll be missing his party which looks like its going to be THE social event of the year. Drop a Jackson 5 track for me and i'll boogie to it in spirit.Ooookays , Love all of you ,see ya when I’m back...be ready for the pictures and stories

yes ..i used to be a white guy 

a lil high waisted  

men standing around  

Sweet Parting - I have flu ..be warned

Parting is such sweet sorrow? Could have fooled me – where the heck is the sweetness…
As I say so long to my university days, I slowly wrestle with myself …refusing to accept that things are going to change. The only joy I felt was after the my last paper (see grinning buffoon in pic) but after that premature ejaculation of elation , I slowly realize uprooting was going to be a bitch….uprooting from hallmates , from the honours class and various other acquaintances made throughout my four years . Seriously ..how do you say goodbye to people knowing you’ll never ever see them again . Answer: You comfort each other with ‘Singapore is small, we’ll definitely see each other’ or ‘ Hey, I’ll email you from time to time’ ….words of comfort ,really difficult to bring into reality and fruition . (Mental note – email people worth emailing, for the rest of your life)….ooooh I didn’t start writing this as a cynical grump but lookee here , call me Oscar . Excuse me while I indulge in pictures from the past …

Last paper eva  

pardon

the absence but i will return

Stray you , stray me  

When should we stray? Should we stray?

So I was watching ‘Before Sunset’ and the ending is ambiguous, the audience can’t really tell if Ethan Hawk misses his flight back home to wife and kid and stays the evening with Julie Deprey whom he met 9 years ago on a train in Europe where they spent a day together .

Interesting issues: Ethan married his wife because she was pregnant and now feels he’s running a ‘really small nursery with a stranger’ and over the years,he’s had frequent dreams of Julie Deprey in bed with him and she is pregnant but does not let him touch her and he wakes up from this dream sobbing with his wife looking at him and he feels a million miles away from her (his wife).

Julie by the way has never forgotten him and wrote a song about their time together ..

I don't care what they say I know what you meant for me that day I just wanted another try I just wanted another night Even if it doesn't seem quite right You meant for me much more Than anyone I've met before

Julie has a strained relationship with a war journalist whose frequent absences she admits are the best part of their relationship…. So should Ethan miss that flight?

I always believed in life, we look for a partner that will make us happier than we can ever be by ourselves. IF we are then miserable with the ones we’re with, does it then justify ‘straying’? Straying here means to dishonour loyalties forged within a relationship whether formalized in marriage or just mutually accepted between consenting individuals… there is after all another option, don’t stray….just end the relationship that makes you miserable and attempt another union that promises a level of happiness that you yearn for … we all are aiming for higher ground but there’s no need to hurt others along our upward trajectory ….so should Ethan call his wife, tell her its over and then proceed to ravage Julie ….or tell Julie to wait as he ends his marriage in due time … Questions ...questions …as with most matters in the context of the ‘everyday’, grand ideas are hard to operationalize especially when we’re empassioned by the thrill of the moment …intoxicated by lust , excitement and the promise of a reachable higher ground….We are after all weak creatures , sentient beings with feelings that often overcome our rational logical thoughts …but still I say, remember that straying means to dishonor another’s trust, hopefully we can all cling to that one thought and not surrender to temptation.